During the past week, I had an epiphany courtesy of my inner universe.
The inner universe is the area comprised of mysterious brain synapses and who knows what else…
Maybe subatomic bits of chocolate?
I can’t type “inner universe” without thinking of Crowded House’s hypnotic song Private Universe.
Ever since the creation of my ARC, I’ve been obsessed with attaining book endorsements. I’ve contacted bestselling writers, experts in the bipolar and perinatal mental health fields, and celebrities.
When the rejections started coming in, they weren’t fun, as you can imagine. Some of my emails were ignored. (I’d rather get a rejection than no response at all!) But I knew from the get-go that rejections would be part of the process.
I received five blurbs (you can see them here under Editorial Reviews) and more are on the way.
How many blurbs does an author really need?
Well, there are publishing pros who believe a writer only needs a few blurbs. Other marketers such as Sarah Bolme suggest getting twenty to thirty! I encourage you to read her brief post about her rationale. Although Sarah’s specialty is Christian books, her perspective applies to all genres.
I thought this book cover endorsement was witty. The image is blurry, so look closely & if you can’t read Julie’s quote, I copied it at the end of this post.
Since March, I’d often think of an awesome celebrity I wanted to ask for a blurb.
Stephen Fry! Jessie Close! Adele! Sia!
Yet I already had more than enough blurbs. Last week I realized I knew what I truly wanted, and it wasn’t fifty glowing endorsements of my book.
What I yearned for was a Mount Everest-sized amount of validation that I was worthwhile.
I thought that if extraordinary people approved of Birth of a New Brain, I’d have irrefutable proof that I was worthy as well.
Stigma and all.
It was time to smash my longtime habit of seeking approval from others and look inward.
As Stuart Smalley would say….
As I looked inward, it wasn’t pretty. I noticed my shame of having a mental illness, feeling like I’m a mediocre writer, struggling with body image issues, and knowing I sometimes fail as the mother, wife, and friend I want to be.
I spoke about all of that with my therapist this morning. She helped me reframe how I saw myself and my life. It wasn’t her first time doing that and it won’t be her last, but I’m determined to chip away at the shame and insecurity that have plagued me for a long time.
My Scottish collie Lucy serves as an inspiring role model even though she is of the canine persuasion. She possesses a healthy amount of self-esteem.
Just like Stuart Smalley, Lucy’s good enough! She’s smart enough! And gosh darn it, people like her!
(Cats aren’t exactly thrilled with her, but hey – you can’t have everything!)
Here’s my furry girl after her bath. She pulls off her spiky Cher hairstyle with aplomb!
On a completely separate note, I want to share a very cool, free resource with you. I can’t remember how I found out about it, but I’m glad I did.
It’s called Net Galley and you can participate in it as a blogger. Here’s their nutshell description:
Why Register for NetGalley?
We’re looking for readers of influence who help to build buzz about new books. As a member, you will be able to request or be invited to read new books, primarily before they are published. In the book trade, these are called “galleys” (hence our name!).
You will be able to read galleys digitally, on all major reading devices and platforms, and provide reviews, recommendations, and nominations for industry lists, right from your account.
We’re delighted to be in the business of helping “professional readers” evaluate new titles. Anyone who reads and recommends books can use NetGalley for free. Welcome!
To register visit this link
I suggest you read this page before you create your blogger profile so publishers will like it and grant your book requests! I’ll start reading an advance copy of Jen Waite’ s A Beautiful, Terrible Thing this weekend.
Let me know if you have any questions.
Oh yes. There’s one more thing.
Have you had any epiphanies lately? I’d like to know about one if you’re up for it!
Lots of love & see you next week,
When I did a Google search for “beautiful images of the universe” this picture came up.
“The Real Miss Universe”
Dyane Harwood’s memoir is Birth of a New Brain – Healing from Postpartum Bipolar Disorder with a foreword by Dr. Carol Henshaw.
Dr. Henshaw is the co-author of The Modern Management of Perinatal Psychiatric Disorders, 2nd Edition published by the Royal College of Psychiatrists in March 2017.
Birth of a New Brain will be published by Post Hill Press on October 10th, 2017, and it’s available for paperback pre-sales on Amazon here; Kindle pre-sales are coming this summer!
- “Pure genius. Brilliant. A literary masterpiece”
- Julie Kraft (the author of the book! 😉