Happy Birthday to Us!

Today, March 18th, my beautiful puppy Lucy turns one while I turn forty-five. I love the fact that we share a birthday!  

Being forty-five seems rather bizarre, because in a lot of ways I still feel like I’m fourteen.  

As my favorite American author Madeleine L’Engle said,

““The great thing about getting older is that you don’t lose all the other ages you’ve been.”

In case you missed it, here I am with Madeleine L’Engle at a writer’s conference at a Santa Barbara monastery.  This photo was taken when I was the tender age of 27, a decade before my postpartum bipolar one diagnosis.

Dy and L'Engle 2

 

So here I am having another birthday.  Just as I felt at age fourteen and all the other ages, I’m hoping that something unexpected and magical happens today.  But I just realized that something magical and unexpected did happen exactly one year ago that would affect my forty-fifth birthday and hopefully many more.

This special event occurred last year when Lucy was born on my forty-fourth birthday!  

Pisces girls unite!

looooovFurry SiblingsLucy’s brothersMom Layla & Dad

Lucy’s Mom and Dad 

 

My birthday will never feel complete since my Dad isn’t alive to wish me a happy day in his resonant voice, and play me the birthday song on his violin.  Since that can’t happen, I’ll sing a song by a couple of guys named Paul McCartney and John Lennon to Lucy today:

“I’ve got to admit it’s getting better (Better)
A little better all the time (It can’t get more worse)
I have to admit it’s getting better (Better)
It’s getting better since you’ve been mine”  

“Getting Better”, The Beatles

For those of you who’ve been kind enough to read this blog, you know that my past year has had its share of shit.  I suffered two “mini-relapses” due to sleep deprivation.  Some other challenging situations cropped up that I didn’t exactly handle with aplomb.  But I’m determined to make this next year better, and the year after that one even better.  

I’m making up for many chunks of lost time.  Time that stolen by my evil bipolar depression.  

I’m working hard to (I hate this phrase, but I’ll use it anyway) practice self-care. What’s my version of self-care? Part of my laundry list includes exercising the Dr. Mohammad Alsuwaidan way*, getting enough sleep, family time, taking meds religiously, and laughing at Alpura Dancing Cows. and anything else funny. (I loved watching Russell Brand’s Messiah Complex over the weekend!)  My new support group for women with mood disorders rocks.  And how could I forget mentioning Lucy?

Lucy.  She’s the hound of a lifetime. I’m so used to referring to her as a puppy, but she’s a dog now.  My children and I adore her, and the feeling seems mutual, but she worships alpha male Craig, so he can’t resist her charms either.  I thank God for this beast every day.  It’s not easy to take good, responsible care of a dog – my last two dogs Tara and Shera were with me for fifteen years to the end, when they both died in my arms… but she’s worth it.  I held Lucy when she was eight-weeks-old in a way similar to how I held my newborns. I gently cuddled her with reverence and a deep, pure love.  

While it might be nice to win the California SuperLotto Plus, land a book contract with a great publisher, or win a session with the kooky Long Island Medium, I have my family: Craig, my girls and my angel with paws, Miss Lucy.  

I wish you all an unexpected birthday gift that you’ll treasure the rest of your life; something awesome such as my furry girl.  

Have a great day, friends!

Dyane

 

 

 

 

* http://kuwaitmood.com/exercise-mood-part-iii-from-science-to-action/

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65 thoughts on “Happy Birthday to Us!

  1. Wish you had an amazing Birthday honey. I did email you on the 19th. I could not do on 18th as I was on a road trip from OH to MI. Love to girls and Lucy. Hope you had a blast !!

    1. How funny – I just emailed you back, sweetie – like 15 minutes ago!!! We’ve been on each other’s minds!!! :))))) Sending you all my love! XXOXX

      1. Isn’t that amazing. You are always there when I think about blogging. I did write a little something. Thanks for understanding. Love you !

  2. Hi, I arrived here following Maria Abanga’s post. Happy bleated birthday to your and your precious four-pawed creature, from a new follower and my own four paws and tail 🙂

    1. Thank you so much, animella, and welcome! I really appreciate your following the blog. Please give my best to your own, precious four-pawed sweetie; Lucy sends you both her very best as well! ;0

    1. You never have to apologize to me – it made me so happy that you wrote – birthdays go by too quickly as it is; they really need to last more than 24 hours! 🙂 Sending you hugs, dear Lisa. And love! XO

    1. Lucy said, “Ruff, ruff, thank you!” and I also say “Thank you!” – I think you, Lucy and I are all rockin’ brunettes (well, technically she’s a brown/white/honey combo, hee hee!) Have wonderful weekend & thanks for a lovely comment!

  3. I’ve adored Stephen Colbert and his Truthiness for years, before he got his own show even – this link is very eye-opening; I had NO idea, and I love what Colbert creates in lieu of the regular b-day song!!! Thanks for finding it and for figuring out that I’m 23, HA HA HA! Yeah, that logic makes PURRRRRFECT sense! XO

    1. Thank you kindly, my beautiful Fair Godmother! Lucy said she will be patient regarding your blog! 😉 Sending you a hug, you talented, prolific author!!!!

    1. Thanks, dear Kennedy! Give my regards to those adorable, foul-breathed beasts of yours! I can’t believe my furry, freaky baby is full-grown. Sigh!

      1. Haha will do! And ugh doggies seem to grow up way too fast. On the bright side, each year a dog ages is a new experience, new stories, and a super strong friendship!

        Hope you’re having a great week! (((hugs)))! 🙂

    1. Yes, Lucy got lots of treats, that spoiled-but-beautiful beast!!!
      Thanks for your wonderful b-day wishes – they all made me smile & feel
      appreciated!

      Much love from your Honey Pot!

    1. Thanks, my dear Vic. Here’s yet aNother thanks for the shout-out yesterday on your blog – it was such fun to read it and see yours truly mentioned…in good terms at that! 😉 Keep up with those gym workouts – I’m proud of you!

  4. I HATE stolen time! Good for you for making up for it. Good for you for having determination. And good for you for, despite setbacks, persevering and not only caring for yourself, but reaching out to others as well. You are a true inspiration. Happy Birthday!

    1. Fiiiinnnnallllyy just watched this! Are you a 50 cent fan? When I started playing this, Lucy went to sleep. Don’t tell him!!!

      p.s. thanks for the unexpected – and for making me laugh – I didn’t expect THIS song!

      1. Not a major fiddy fan – I like some stuff … I am a hip hop fan in general, amongst 482t2 other genres. And my pleasure – that song makes me laugh too 🙂 I hope your birthday was fabulous and Lucy’s too. And I hope both of you got lovely gifts.

      2. I wouldn’t have pegged you as a hip hop fan, I’m not sure why, you’ve shared your musical tastes before…that just adds to the magic that is blahpolar! As for pressies, I got, drum roll please, a Chromebook, which is COOL! I’ve been kicked off this old MacBook Pro laptop I’m using by my mean children so they can play kooky crap like “Animal Jam”. Being unable to use the MacBook whenever I wanted to put a serious dent in my blogging & commenting, let me tell you! As far as Fiddy Cent goes, damn, I want to be ripped and strong like him, able to do upside-down crunches (No, or shall I say, ho offense, but I don’t want to look like the females in that video!!!!!) but he’s a little too buff, actually. I want to be semi-fiddy-esque! I used to be buff in the days when I resembled Linda Hamilton when she was in “The Terminator” – that was when I bench pressed @ the gym! We’re talking 15 years ago. Sigh.

    1. Thank you, thank you my fiery, freaky friend. You aren’t so bad yourself! I’ve had such fun reading about your adventures in Florida. I know it’ll be good for you to be around family in Colorado too. You’re amazing & adventurous!!!!!! I’m so glad we’re connected!!!

    1. Thanks so much, Ruthie! To be honest, it was a weird day; it was mixed.But I got through it and I even got some chocolate in the end, and Lucy got liver dog treats instead! 🙂 (eeeewww – liver!) take care!!!

  5. Happy, happy, happy birthday, Dyane. I love how you warm our hearts and make us smile and laugh with you by sharing good memories and adorable photos of Lucy as a pup, as well as bring tears to our eyes as we are reminded of your loss of your father and your losses due to the beast of bipolar depression. Excellent piece of writing. Thank you.

    1. WOW, thank YOU, Kitt!!!! What a comment; it’s so beautifully written!!!!
      I’m super-excited we’re hanging out on Sunday. I’m deeply grateful to you for making the trek up here to the Bay Area. (Automatic blog post material, ha ha ha!) No, it’s more than that. It’s the start of a lovely “IRL” friendship in addition to our wonderful internet connection.

      Let the fun begin!

  6. Happy birthday to both of you, dyane! It’s amazing what you’ve accomplished already, I know that you’ll be able to make this year rock.
    My “pup” is ten years old now, and I’ve only grown to love him even more. Your girl is adorable!

    1. Please give my love to your hound!!! I’m so glad you have him!
      Thanks for your sweet birthday wishes and for the fantastic compliment.
      I hope you’re having a great day – you certainly added a special moment to my afternoon. (I’m reading all these messages today, as yesterday I got totally sidetracked, but it’s fun to keep the birthday vibe going a little longer!)

      gentle (((hugs))) to you and your furry friend,
      Dy 🙂

    1. I tell you, I was gobsmacked that Lucy had the same b-day as moi! It was a sign from the Universe! I actually did give Lucy several kisses yesterday, parasites be damned!

      Thanks so much for writing – you know I love you and I send you hugs and non-parasite-infused smooches to both you and Bailey! XOXOX

  7. And for your father:

    An honest man here lies at rest,
    The friend of man, the friend of truth,
    The friend of age, and guide of youth:
    Few hearts like his, with virtue warm’d,
    Few heads with knowledge so inform’d;
    If there’s another world, he lives in bliss;
    If there is none, he made the best of this.

    Robert Burns

    1. Awwww – thank you so much. What a gorgeous Burn poem. Dad most certainly would have liked it; for all I know, he was familiar with it. He loved his poems, as you know.

      You are SO thoughtful. I’m very moved.

      1. Dang, you made my day with the email you just sent me (that’s a truly awesome b-day gift) and with kind words I soak up like a big, ‘ol sponge! Off to take a peek at that attachment. So cool. xxoo and I don’t dedicate blog posts to just ANYBODY – you are special to meeeeee!

  8. My dear sweet Dyane. How can I express in words what you mean to me! I remember your 3rd birthday as if it were yesterday. Such a child of light and delight. Beautiful dark curls, BIG brown eyes, tender fingers that touched flowers and made you laugh with joy. I’ve known you nearly your entire life, I’ve watched you grow up, go through school and university, survive a very difficult family life at times, come out on top, meet the man of your life, bear two beautiful daughters, and push on through incredible odds with your bipolar, mourn the loss of our wonderful Richard–your dad, and become a formidable writer. Wow, what a grand life even with its setbacks. I’m so, so proud of you and love you dearly. I’m also sending a private email today. Happy, happy birthday and I’ll be with you in spirit on this special day of celebration. Much love always, Nina, your godmother.

    1. I’m finally getting around to reading all these comments the day after my birthday, dearest, beautiful Nina! I didn’t realize you also wrote me this comment – and I am extremely happy that you did.

      You’ve been an amazingly positive influence upon me ever since we met! 🙂 You understand so well what I’ve been through ever since I was 2.(I think, 2, right? You met me before the 3rd b-day party) WOW!

      Thank you for always being there for me, for being such a voice of reason when life got crazy, and for always being so loving. I miss you, and I send you heaps of love. XOXOXOXXOOX Dyane

  9. My dear sweet Dyane. How can I express in words what you mean to me! I remember your 3rd birthday as if it were yesterday. Such a child of light and delight. Beautiful dark curls, BIG brown eyes, tender fingers that touched flowers and made you laugh with joy. I’ve known you nearly your entire life, I’ve watched you grow up, go through school and university, survive a very difficult family life at times, come out on top, meet the man of your life, bear two beautiful daughters, and push on through incredible odds with your bipolar, mourn the loss of our wonderful Richard–your dad, and become a formidable writer. Wow, what a grand life even with its setbacks. I’m so, so proud of you and love you dearly. I’m also sending a private email today. Happy, happy birthday and I’ll be with you in spirit on this special day of celebration. Much love always, Nina, your godmother.

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